Day 61, looking gloomy...

Today…I rushed home to get ready for dinner and tidy up the house a bit.  Jake was coming over at 4:15 and we were eating dinner and then going to the movies.  I took care of all of the side dishes and he brought the steak.  Dinner was awesome, and guess what? he didn’t talk as much as usual!  Well, we made it to the movies a little late, so we ended up not seeing the movie he had planned (Yay!), and instead saw ‘You Again’ which was a really good chick-flick.  The ringer tonight, is that this was our third date and I did not kiss him goodnight.  We hugged, but I’m just not feeling it.  So, what is a girl to do?  Both of the men I have been out with were very fun and very entertaining…as friends.  I don’t know how to let this guy down without hurting his feelings, or pissing him off, because he did pay for all three dates.  First date – he drove to Roxboro and took me to dinner at LaCocina, second date – I drove to Durham and he took me to dinner at Cuban Revolution, and third date – he drove here (again) and we cooked dinner and he paid for my movie ticket.  I need HELP!  Please, please help a girl out!?!  The truth of the matter is, is that I would love to hang out with him again, but just as friends.  I’ve had a really hard time the past two years not having any guy friends, and I just like the idea of having dudes to hang out with.  The most appealing thing about having guys as friends is that they really do not give two shits about what you look like or what you wear.  Am I wrong to think that these types of relationships can exhist?  :(  This stresses me out.  Please help me?

Until later, peace.

<3 Meg

Comments

[Megan Van Sipe]

I think that starting out a relationship by going on dates does not set the tone for "I want dude friends to chill with". Going on dates and then just chilling, is like going backwards. Don't look for dudes to chill with by using the dating site because...that's not what it's for!! It's for finding DATES! Like, to DATE! Hah. So would you hang out with a friend all the time and have them always pay for the hanging out? Prolly not. So if you DO want to hang out again, with him, no more nice dinners and movies (those are dates!) and definitely tell him although it sucks to say "I just wanna be friends". It stinks you don't like any of these guys "that way" but there's a reason for it. There is someone else out there with your name all over him, and you just have to keep on living until life brings the two of you together in its mysterious ways. You know! I can not imagine it will be easy for a beautiful and happy girl like you to find guys that will only be interested in just being your "buddy". Start being less attractive or something.
I love you!

[Megan Van Sipe]

p.s. What is with the day count-up? What are you counting?? I'm confused about that. 61st day of what?

[Megan Smith]

I will surely try to become less attractive. I ended up telling Jake that we should just be friends, which he was surprisingly fine with. But still, he is weird.

The count refers to the fact that it is now Day 66 of embracing my life and taking advantage of every day that I have.